Modern life - careers, technology, the pressures of parenting - can get in the way of our need to form strong attachments to other humans. 

According to therapist and author Charisse Cooke, when it comes to our intimate relationships, we are increasingly acting from a place of fear. We're scared we will choose the wrong person, or the person we are with doesn't love us enough. We're scared to get close. We're scared to be on our own. We're scared the one we love is pulling away. We are not securely attached.

 Often, our childhood experiences are at the root of our attachment difficulties, meaning that our need to protect ourselves can become greater than our need to love. 

In this episode, Andrew and Charisse explore different attachment styles, as well as tools and strategies to create positive and secure attachments.

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• How to Nurture Trust


• Three things Charisse Cooke knows to be true. 


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