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Choosing Each Other: Finding Connection Amidst Family Pressure

Choosing Each Other: Finding Connection Amidst Family Pressure

Update: 2024-09-04
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In this episode, Drew and Melissa share the challenges they faced during a 10-hour road trip to a family beach vacation with their three kids. Surrounded by 30 family members, they found themselves under constant scrutiny. While trying to ensure their kids had a good time, they also struggled with unsolicited comments that made them question their parenting skills.
 
Melissa felt the sting of disconnection when Drew chose to escape the stressful situation by spending time with less challenging family members. This left her feeling unsupported, leading her to question her worth and effectiveness as a parent. The couple grappled with why they cared so much about the opinions of others and how they could have better navigated the situation.

Julie offers insightful feedback, emphasizing that their struggle in this case isn't about their parenting but rather how they respond to challenges together. She highlights the importance of coming together as a team, even briefly, to get on the same page in difficult moments. The episode underscores the value of choosing connection over avoidance and the power of being present with your partner, especially when facing external pressures.

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LeAnne Mitchell

this is the first time I've related to the anxious side of this. I had a similar situation where I was around my partner's family. it was a stressful trip, my car was damaged, my camper was damaged, I was feeling very disregulated. I felt like I was left to manage all the "work" while my partner got the "enjoy" the vacation and his family. it came out as frustration and I wasn't met there, seen, heard. he was also dealing with the stressors by moving away and aiming the frustration back at me.

Oct 30th
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Choosing Each Other: Finding Connection Amidst Family Pressure

Choosing Each Other: Finding Connection Amidst Family Pressure