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Codependency in Disguise: Perfectionism, Fixing, and the Illusion of Control

Codependency in Disguise: Perfectionism, Fixing, and the Illusion of Control

Update: 2025-09-15
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Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I'm only as happy as my least happy child"? This seemingly loving sentiment actually reveals a profound codependent belief that makes us responsible for others' emotions while neglecting our own healing journey. As I discovered with my own family, no amount of fixing or controlling could make my unhappy child happy—that was his journey to walk. Only when I released my grip on controlling outcomes and turned inward did things begin to transform.

Perfectionism, helping behaviors, and our need to "fix" others often masquerade as positive traits—but they're actually sneaky forms of codependency that keep us trapped in cycles of control. When we obsess over making everything perfect or rush to save others from their emotions, we're not being helpful—we're attempting to manage our own discomfort and create safety through control.

The 9-Step Soul Recovery Process offers a spiritual path out of these patterns. Through this process, we replace the drive to fix others with self-compassion, embrace new beliefs about our inherent worthiness, and shift our lens from fear to love.

Join us December 1st from 6-7PM Mountain Time for the next FREE Recover Your Soul Community Support Group. Register on the website, or look in your promotions folder the day of the meeting for the link if you have registered in the past. 

Start your journey with the FREE Recover Your Soul™ 9-Step Mini-Workbook- A gentle spiritual path to healing, letting go, and awakening.

This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not allied or representative of any organizations or religions, but is based on the opinions and experience of Rev. Rachel Harrison or guests. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein. Take what you need and leave the rest.

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Codependency in Disguise: Perfectionism, Fixing, and the Illusion of Control

Codependency in Disguise: Perfectionism, Fixing, and the Illusion of Control

Rev. Rachel Harrison