And so, yes, how you show up in this world, your outer appearance, how you speak, your posture, everything has to do with showing people that you are intelligent, showing people that you are confident, showing people that you are bold, showing people that you are capable, showing people that you are trustworthy and reliable, showing people all of those things to create those opportunities in your life, to attract whatever it is that you're working towards, whether you're looking for a partner to spend the rest of your life with. You can literally apply this same example and the same scenario that I just gave to you to going out on a date. Hey, ladies, welcome back to the Ashlee Jaine show. You are absolutely in the right place if you are looking for mindset inspiration to help you glow up and show up as the very best version of yourself. This episode is all about dress and style, which is so funny because that is virtually all that I share on my YouTube and on my Instagram and my other social platforms. I absolutely love putting together chic and elevated outfit ideas and inspiration for the ladies who follow me on those platforms, and I know that I just talked about vanity metrics and things like that back in my last podcast episode, and I firmly stand by what I said when it comes to investing in yourself. But once you have laid the groundwork and have a good, solid foundation of who you are internally, both with your health and wellbeing, and also with your mindset and your positive outlook and inspiration in regards to the way that you think and the way that you feel about yourself.

Once you have that work underway, it is so important to start showing up that way to the world. And you can do this through honestly through so many things, everything from the way that you dress all the way to your posture and how you stand and how you sit and how you speak. Those are all factors in how you show up in the world and how. And yes, I'm going to go there and I know that people hate thinking that this is reality, but it is totally reality. That is how people receive you. That is how people. I don't want to say Judge, but that is how people categorize you. So as much as we don't like to admit that we do that with people because we most definitely do, it is a primal instinct and it is something that is still embedded in our DNA to this day. We are judged, we are categorized, we are whatever you want to call it, received based on how we show up in the world. And so we're going to be talking about how the way that you dress and the outfits that you wear. And you know, I already gave examples of the way that you speak and your posture and things like that, but how those carry weight and how those portray your inner world to the outer world.

And I really don't know a better way to describe it other than exactly how I just did. But I want you to understand the importance of it, not only the importance of how people are going to receive you. That's not really the point that I'm trying to make here. It's how you're showing up in the world. It's how you are commanding respect. It's how you are commanding the authority and everything that you seek in this life, whether that is a career, whether that is a relationship, whether that is a role as a mother or a daughter or a sister, whatever that may be, however, it is that you're wanting to show up. You need to start dressing for the life that you want. You know, they always have that same dress for the job that you want. Well, no, I'm going to take it a step further and say, you need to dress for the life that you want, because when you start showing up internally and externally as the person that you want to be five years down the road, 10 years down the road, a week from now, that is how you bring about those things into your world. Let's use the example of dressing for the job that you love. Let's use the scenario that you're going in for a job interview.

And let's say that job interview is for an admin position. Maybe you're doing some sort of secretarial work and you show up and you know that you want to get in with this company and you know that you're overqualified for this job and you know that you would really like a position that is maybe a little bit higher of a pay grade, a little bit more compatible with your education and your skill set. You show up for this interview and you are dressed to the nine and you show up confident you show up well spoken, you show up educated, knowledgeable. They are likely going to say if they're being honest with themselves, we think that you're overqualified. We have another position available. Would you like to take it? I think it would suit you better. Something along those lines, or we would really love to get you in right now and then help you achieve your career goals within the company. As time goes on, something like that, that's just an example. No, let's say you do have this incredible educational background and the skill set and experience for this job. But let's say you show up and you're nervous and you're hunched over and you're, you know, you kind of showed up sloppy. Maybe your hair isn't done. Maybe you have an untucked shirt or whatever it may be, and you're just kind of showing up as just not the best version of yourself, not the person that you want to be, maybe the person you were a few years ago.

Maybe the person that you were yesterday, but you are choosing not to be anymore. Let's say you show up as that person. You are likely not even going to be offered the job because you're not showing up for the job that you want for the life that you want. And so, yes, how you show up in this world, your outer appearance, how you speak, your posture, everything has to do with showing people that you are intelligent, showing people that you are confident, showing people that you are bold, showing people that you are capable, showing people that you are trustworthy, reliable, showing people all of those things to create those opportunities in your life, to attract whatever it is that you're working towards, whether you're looking for a partner to spend the rest of your life with. You can literally apply this same example and the same scenario that I just gave to you to going out on a date like think about if you show up as as the best version of yourself versus if you show up as this nervous kind of like hunched over, scared, timid, not so great version of yourself. The date is going to be drastically different depending on how you show up. And if you show up and you're, you know, wearing sweatpants or whatever it may be versus if you show up and you are dressed, you're in your favorite outfit, you're feeling so confident, so bold, you feel like it's accurately portraying who you are as a person.

The date is going to go entirely different, and I want to make that clear. I want you to really think about and imagine yourself in both of those situations and the outcomes that would happen based on how you're showing up. So while there are more ways that factor in with how to show up and how to act and present yourself for the life that you love, I firmly believe that dressing the part is one of them or the life that you want to create. I should say the life that you want. Well, I guess you are working on creating the life that you love, right? At least I hope you are. If you're here and you're listening to this podcast episode, that's what I'm assuming. I'm assuming that you're all here because you want to become the very best version of yourself. You want to reach your potential. You want to really excel in life and live your life to its fullest, to live out your purpose and to create as much impact in this world as you possibly can. That is why I put together these podcast episodes for you, because I want to help you do that because I am on this journey. I am on the journey to become the very best version of myself, and I have learned a lot of things along the way, and I want to share them with you to make your journey a little more easy to help you speed up the time gap between where you are and where you want to be.

So that's why I'm here. Anyways, back to the message about showing up and dressing for the life that you want now. I am all about style. I hate the word fashion. If I'm being honest, I hate it because to me, fashion equals trends. It equals weird, crazy colored shirts and funky colors and designs and patterns that nobody in the real world actually wears. You only see that shit on the runway. And I just hate it. I don't like it. I don't think that it applies to us ladies who are on this journey, who are trying to show up as the best version of ourselves. You can't show up as the best version of yourself when you're literally dressed like a character out of the capital and The Hunger Games. Like, that's not realistic at all. And I also don't think that chasing trends is the best way to show up as the best version of yourself. I think that figuring out your signature style, your personal style, the types of clothes and fits that suit your body type that suit your personality, the colors that you absolutely love, and that go great with your skin tone and your hair and your eyes and all of those things.

That's what I want you to focus on, and I'm all about timelessness, too, because again, I hate fashion and I hate trends, so I want you to really just do like a mental checklist of. The items of clothes that you have in your closet, which ones are the ones that you wear, a lot of which ones are the ones that you can pair with so many different things and wear so many different ways because those are your capsule wardrobe items. Capsule wardrobe items are the best way to build out a wardrobe that is timeless and that is suitable to your personal style. So think about those items and you can even like narrow it down to maybe thinking about jeans. Which type of fit is your favorite jean? Is it the boyfriend Jean?