Suzanne Noble joins me for a raw, funny, direct conversation about dating, sex, kink and honesty after 50. You hear what dating looks like in the UK versus the US, why so many men think they are going to be the one to “fix” your orgasm, how porn shapes expectations, how women think about body image as we age, and why younger partners are on the rise. Suzanne breaks down the UK’s kink culture, why dominatrixes are fully booked, and how to explore safely. We also talk about jealousy, non-traditional relationships, safety on dating apps, catfishing, and why so many of us refuse to shave our pubic hair for a man. This episode is candid, smart, and packed with insights about midlife dating and sexual confidence.

Timestamps:

In this episode:

00:00 Holiday masterclass offer

00:35 Welcome intro and episode setup

01:18 Are Brits more open about sex

02:22 The UK’s kink history and boarding school culture

03:58 How early life stages shape sexual dynamics

05:20 BDSM clubs and the UK Femdom scene

06:35 Why kink is built around control, not intercourse

07:40 Are Brits really more open than Americans

08:32 Dating men who listen to the podcast

09:48 Younger men and orgasm expectations

10:42 Why people hide their curiosity about sex

11:30 Porn influence, squirting, and sexual performance myths

12:45 The rise of sexual repression in America

13:40 Dating younger partners and why it appeals to women

14:55 Midlife relationships, jealousy, and complexity

16:05 Opening relationships and personal boundaries

16:58 How to stay safe while dating after 50

18:10 Spotting catfish and bot profiles

19:22 When a profile is too good to be true

20:15 Shifting into body image and aging

21:00 Feeling confident naked as you age

21:48 When men do not match their claimed fitness

22:25 Grooming norms. Pubic hair expectations in the UK

23:05 Saying no to grooming requests you do not want

23:42 Early experiences with kink

24:30 Why experience matters for safety in kink

25:10 Learning impact play in community spaces

25:35 Closing thoughts

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Suzanne Noble is the Co-founder of Startup School for Seniors, co-host of Sex Advice for Seniors, and jazz & blues pro singer. 

Connect with Suzanne Noble:

Website: https://suzannenoble.co.uk/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniors

Substack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.