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Dating and toxicity

Dating and toxicity

Update: 2025-08-01
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An app offering women dating safety tools and advice has suspended some of its services following a hack, sparking a debate between the sexes about fairness and respect in dating.

Tea, which lets women do background checks on potential male dates, is only available in the USA, but the incident has prompted discussion about similar online groups available in the UK, like 'Are We Dating The Same Guy' on Facebook. Some users say online spaces where they can flag concerns about infidelity or potential abuse are vital for women's wellbeing and safety, but some men feel they are being treated unfairly and that the groups are spreading lies.

We spill the tea on the Tea app, look at the laws around what users can and can't say on these groups, and ask whether men really are less trustworthy than women when it comes to dating. Plus, online dating has changed the way we meet potential partners - how has the industry evolved?

Presenter: Adam Fleming
Producers: Simon Tulett, Lucy Proctor, Nik Sindle, Natasha Fernandes
Editor: Penny Murphy
Studio Manager: Hal Haines

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Dating and toxicity

Dating and toxicity

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