In this conversation, Michelle Renee and Brian Gibney discuss various aspects of dating and relationships. They explore the concept of nature's order versus culture's order, highlighting the importance of safety and communication in building intimate connections. They share their personal experiences with dating and navigating hookup culture. The conversation also delves into the significance of managing expectations, renegotiating relationships, and embracing adaptability. They emphasize the need for open and honest communication, as well as the importance of defining relationships based on individual needs and desires. In this conversation, Michelle and Brian discuss the principles and practices of dating and relationships. They emphasize the importance of being authentic and transparent in relationships, allowing for self-selection and compatibility. They also explore the idea of embracing all aspects of ourselves and finding partners who accept us fully. Creating intimacy and connection, choosing close relationships, maintaining boundaries and autonomy, and living the work outside of work are also discussed.

Takeaways

• Safety and communication are crucial in building intimate connections.


• Managing expectations and renegotiating relationships are essential for personal growth and satisfaction.


• Labels and definitions in relationships can vary and should be based on individual needs and desires.


• Adaptability and open communication are key characteristics to look for in a partner. Be authentic and transparent in relationships, allowing for self-selection and compatibility.


• Embrace all aspects of yourself and find partners who accept you fully.


• Create intimacy and connection by showing up fully and allowing others to hold space for you.


• Maintain boundaries and autonomy, only getting involved when it personally affects you.

Brian Gibney (he/him) is a reformed scientist, forever geek, and ex-circus performer. Now he's helping others as a surrogate partner, intimacy coach, educator, and advocate. He can be found on Instagram at https://instagram.com/brian_gibney_intimacy and at https://BrianGibney.org.

Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Michelle's website is ⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠ and can be found on social media at @meetmichellerenee.

Links from today's episode:

• The video that inspired Michelle's poster in her office: https://vimeo.com/468113082/c8711f0dd6?fbclid=IwAR0K51Z1UeleQx8Bc1FdoWscqTcXMvBcDfUx1lL0m4G6ymuPETBRcV7heDA


• https://Fetlife.com


• https://cuddlist.com/michelle


• Wheel of Consent: https://www.schoolofconsent.org/


• Polysecure by Jessica Fern: https://amzn.to/45btqQs

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