E156: Ties, Lies, and the Armor We Wear to "Fit In"
Description
What happens when the version of you that earns the applause… isn’t actually you?
In this week's episode, we’re curling up on the couch together — just you and me — for a conversation about what it really costs to survive in systems that were never built with you in mind. I’ll share a moment from a recent coaching session that broke my heart, lit a fire in my chest, and reminded me why I do this work.
You’ll hear the story of a woman who put on the metaphorical (and literal) suit, believing that blending in would finally earn her a seat at the table — and the truth that shattered that belief.
Together, we’ll explore:
- How we learn to adapt, shrink, and armor up just to be taken seriously
- The deep cost of that kind of survival
- Why coaching is the bridge back to your truth — and your power
- And how to begin asking yourself the questions that bring you home
This isn’t just her story — it’s mine. And maybe it’s yours, too.
✨ You’re not too much. You’re not too loud. You’re not a problem to be solved.
You are a force.
And you don’t need to become someone else to be worthy of your place in the room.
If this episode stirs something in you — rage, truth, grief, or recognition — don’t let it fade. Share it. Talk about it. Or whisper something brave to yourself right now.
And if you're ready to stop shrinking and start leading with your full voice, I’d love to walk alongside you. Come find me on LinkedIn or Instagram.
With fire,
Cynthia
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Make it a great week!
Cynthia Jamieson 🧡🌱
Leadership coach for high-integrity leaders who want to thrive without proving or burning out | Ex-HR Exec | ICF PCC Coach | Podcast Host | Intuitive Intelligence® Method Guide












