The Truth About Control: How to Lead With Influence Instead of Fear

If you’re a manager who feels the urge to control everything - from performance to team behaviour - this episode is your wake-up call.

Control might feel safe, but it kills trust, independence, and performance. In this episode, I break down what control really is, why it’s often rooted in fear, and how to shift into a leadership style based on influence instead.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

- What you actually control as a manager (it’s not your team)

- The difference between control and influence - and why it matters

- How fear drives controlling behaviours (and what to do about it)

- Four practical shifts to lead with influence instead of micromanagement

- Why emotional intelligence is the foundation of real leadership

- How to build a high performing team by creating better conditions - not tighter rules

The sooner you shift from control to influence, the faster your team will grow — and the less stressed you’ll feel every day.

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