DiscoverTHIS TOO SHALL PASSEP 17: Love, Responsibility, and Independence
EP 17: Love, Responsibility, and Independence

EP 17: Love, Responsibility, and Independence

Update: 2024-05-28
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What does parenthood look like without the traditional authoritative fear often emphasized in our culture? Join us on "This Too Shall Pass" as we explore the raw and honest journey of single motherhood within the black community. From the cultural nuances of enjoying an espresso martini to the laughter-filled yet revealing conversations it sparks, we share personal stories that highlight the struggles and triumphs of parenting five children solo. Carla and Paola join me as we shift the conversation to my apprehensions about re-entering the dating scene, navigating the murky waters of online dating, and exploring the hesitant yet hopeful forays into platforms like Hinge.

 

Our conversation takes a deeper turn as we discuss the importance of co-parenting, personal growth, and the unique challenges of raising children, particularly boys. We reflect on the influence of upbringing on love languages and the struggle to foster independence and responsibility in our kids while maintaining love and support. Personal anecdotes reveal the pressures of being the eldest sibling and balancing household chores, emphasizing the need for positive and respectful parent-child relationships. Through it all, we navigate the societal and familial expectations that shape our parenting journey, striving for a balance that allows our children to flourish.

 

 

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