EP 52: Why “Turn-Taking” Is Killing Your Sex Life
Description
If sex were actually working for you, you wouldn’t be trying so hard.
Trying to last.
Trying to relax.
Trying to do it “right.”
Turn-taking sex taught effort, timing, and control—but not shared pleasure. And when it comes to penetration, the message goes even deeper: it’s framed as something for men. Women are told to relax, surrender, and receive—while somehow also being tight, responsive, and present.
Your body knows how impossible that feels.
This episode names what rarely gets said out loud. When pleasure is divided into turns, one body stays active while the other goes passive. Penetration becomes friction instead of sensation. Connection thins. Desire fades. Sex starts to feel mechanical instead of alive.
In this conversation, Dr. Saida Désilets and Aaron Michael dismantle the turn-taking model and expose how cultural conditioning, body mechanics, and advice like “just relax” quietly sabotage intimacy—especially for women. They point toward a different experience of sex: one where penetration doesn’t privilege one body over the other, and pleasure becomes a shared, sensorial state.
This isn’t about orgasms happening at the same time.
It’s about what happens when your body is no longer waiting.
Once you understand why turn-taking doesn’t work—especially in penetration—sex can’t feel the same again.
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