About this Episode

Are you stuck in a cycle of blame and resentment, wondering why forgiveness feels so elusive even though everyone says it’s the key to inner peace? Many of us hear that forgiving others will set us free, but when we try to let go of anger or seek justice for betrayals and hurts, practical steps are hard to find and genuine relief can feel out of reach. What if forgiveness isn’t just about pardoning or forgetting, but something deeper—something that could pave the way to real healing and even deeper intimacy?

In this episode, listeners are invited to re-examine forgiveness from a fresh, practical, and spiritual perspective. Instead of relying on vague promises or traditional definitions, the conversation delves into tangible steps for breaking out of the blame loop, nurturing the parts of ourselves most in need, and using unconditional love as a powerful tool for restoration. Whether you're dealing with everyday resentments in a long-term partnership or coping with a profound betrayal, you'll walk away with actionable insights and a renewed sense of personal empowerment to move from conflict to true connection.

After studying psychology and alternative spirituality for most of her life, an unlikely turn of events pointed Dara McKinley toward the forgiveness path. Examined through the lens of her previous knowledge, she discovered that forgiveness is actually much bigger than one’s ability to pardon as well as a healing modality. Feeling called to help those deterred by mainstream forgiveness definitions, today Dara guides people beyond popular forgiveness understandings and into a practical spiritual process that restores peace.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

Episode Highlights 

07:02 How mainstream forgiveness definitions can fall short.

11:28 Vindictive energy, justice, and the personal cost of resentment.

14:40 Dara’s turning point: Discovering a practical forgiveness path.

17:12 Redefining forgiveness beyond pardoning and mainstream expectations.

20:13 Spiritual versus relational love: Navigating conditional and unconditional experiences.

24:09 Three sources of love.

27:19 A journey of self-responsibility and tender attention to the inner wound.

31:13 Practical steps for applying unconditional love to inner healing.

33:51 The negative narrative loop and how forgiveness restores personal power.

36:00 Forgiveness as an alchemical process and shifting perspectives in relationships.

39:59 A case study on resentment and forgiveness in long-term partnerships.

44:50 Boundaries, agreements, and the transformational effects of love.

Mentioned

The Space Between: The Point of Connection (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

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