Enneagram Basics: The 3 Instincts

Enneagram Basics: The 3 Instincts

Update: 2025-06-03
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The Enneagram isn’t about putting us in a box—it’s a powerful tool for understanding motivations, behaviors, and the “why” behind how we show up in life and relationships.  

In today’s episode, I focus on instincts. I believe it’s important to first understand which instincts drive you (and which is your blind spot) before seeking out your number or type.  

This knowledge allow you to enhance the health of the important relationships in your life (even if you don’t yet know your type!).

Main Points:

  • It’s About Motivation, Not Just Behavior: The Enneagram helps us look beyond what we do to why we do it—revealing our deepest motivations, fears, and desires.
  • The Power of Instincts: We each operate from three core instincts—self-preservation, social, and one-to-one. 
  • Self-Compassion is the Secret Ingredient: Growth happens best when we notice our patterns without judgment. 

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Enneagram Basics: The 3 Instincts

Enneagram Basics: The 3 Instincts

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