What drives your sexual desire, and what holds it back? In this episode of The Sexuality Clinic Podcast: Exploring Pleasure and Relationships, we delve into the science of arousal through the lens of Emily Nagoski’s groundbreaking work Come As You Are. Together, we’ll unpack the Dual Control Model—a framework that explains how our “accelerators” (turn-ons) and “brakes” (turn-offs) influence our sexual experiences.

Learn how to identify the unique factors that spark or inhibit your desire, from emotional connection and stress to life’s daily demands. We’ll explore practical tools, like journaling exercises to map your triggers, strategies for rebalancing shared responsibilities in relationships, and the role of open communication in creating the right emotional and physical context for intimacy.

Discover why household chores, unresolved arguments, or even subtle changes in mood can impact your desire, and how you can reset the balance with simple but powerful changes. This episode is your guide to understanding what truly turns you on—and off—so you can create deeper intimacy and satisfaction in your relationships.

Ready to transform your approach to desire? Tune in now and take the first step toward unlocking your unique keys to connection and pleasure!

Show Notes: thesexualityclinic.com/006

Keywords: intimacy, desire, pleasure, sex, relationships, love, connection, sexuality, sexual expression, self-care, anatomy