Episode 237: Why Great Lovers—and Saints—Don’t Wait for the Spark

Update: 2025-07-29

Description

What really makes for lasting love and deep intimacy—whether in marriage or in our relationship with God? In this episode, Dr. Greg explains why the “spark” isn’t the true measure of a healthy sex life and how intentional, self-giving love leads to deeper joy. Drawing on wisdom from St. John Paul II and modern research, he offers a fresh perspective on love, marriage, and the spiritual life.

Key Topics:

Why “the spark” of spontaneous desire isn’t the gold standard for lasting intimacy
The difference between desire and pleasure in a healthy sex life
What research reveals about spontaneous vs. responsive desire
The connection between conjugal love and spiritual growth
How anxiety and anticipation can hinder authentic pleasure
Practical ways to move from fleeting desire to intentional, self-giving love
St. John Paul II’s insights on love, desire, and the human person

Learn More:

Article on the “Desire Imperative” – a secular perspective on the difference between spontaneous desire (“the spark”) and responsive desire
Love and Responsibility by St. John Paul II – timeless wisdom on love, desire, and the human person
Blog: Prioritizing Daily Life: The Power of Boundaries – practical ways to create space for prayer and what matters most
Podcast Episode #189: Social Sabbatical – learning the rhythm of silence and a deeper cadence of prayer
Discernment of Spirits – understanding how to recognize God’s voice in your life
Catholic Mindfulness – training your mind for peace
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