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Episode 24: Competence, rejection, and showing up with integrity

Episode 24: Competence, rejection, and showing up with integrity

Update: 2025-07-30
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This week's episode of Tom's Life Lab is for anyone who has ever felt like they know they're good at what they do, but they've struggled to get it across to others.


You've put in the work, earned your insight and built your capability, but some of those around you just don't get it or, worse, they ignore or reject it. The gap between knowing what you can bring, versus what others are seeing, is identity-shaking. 


If your identity is wound around being capable, then when your competence is met with rejection it can encourage feelings of doubt and have you questioning yourself.


Listen to this episode for tips on how to untangle this identity knot, and for an experiment you can try over the coming week.

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Episode 24: Competence, rejection, and showing up with integrity

Episode 24: Competence, rejection, and showing up with integrity

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