Episode 61 - Dr. Jordan Rullo, board-certified clinical health psychologist, sex therapist, and Gottman-certified couples therapist, brings science, empathy, and clarity to a topic too often shrouded in shame and confusion. In this refreshingly honest and deeply informative episode, we dive into the complex world of sex and intimacy in long-term relationships.

We unpack the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, why desire discrepancies are normal (and solvable), and how emotional connection plays a crucial role in physical intimacy. You’ll also hear about the role of “brake pedals” and “gas pedals” in desire, what healthy intimacy looks like, how to deal with shame and performance pressure, and why communication—not candles—is the real spark you need.

Whether you’re in a dry spell, feeling misunderstood, or simply want to connect better with your partner, this episode is a must-listen. Grab your partner or listen solo—just maybe not in front of little ears!

Resources Mentioned:

Book: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski + workbook

Workbook: Better Sex Through Mindfulness (workbook)

Workbook: The Guide to Getting It On

App: Dipsea (audio erotica)

Website: Beducated.com (sexual health education)

Connect with Dr. Rullo on her website: jordanrullo.com, and check out her Therapist training at sexualhealthsolutions.com.

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