Every now and then, siblings tend to have a little bit of healthy competition. However, what can YOU as a parent do when fights amongst siblings get out of control? Additionally, how can you work through intense rivalry together as a family? In this episode, Jodi talks with Dr. Aviva Goldstein, a counselor whose work stems from positive psychology, parenting, child & adolescent development. They dive into sibling relationships, what causes sibling rivalry, and why helping children deal with heated moments is vital to their development.

About our Guest: Dr. Aviva Goldstein is an educator, lecturer, and family counselor with a private practice based in Jerusalem. She occupies the space where the worlds of positive psychology, parenting, child & adolescent development, and Judaism come together. The common thread throughout her work is the desire to bring research findings and insights about children to the people who raise them. 

Show Notes:

6:37 : Causes of Sibling Rivalry

“I think the vast majority of siblings fight because it fills some kind of need … they’re doing it for a reason, it doesn’t usually come out of nowhere.”

12:09 : Fostering the Relationship Between Siblings

“Helping kids realize that there is no competition … every parent has enough love for their child.”

19:52 : What to Say to Kids After Acting Out

“It’s almost never the moment to fix it when those emotions are still supercharged.”

25:26 : The Importance of Working Through Fights

“One of the gifts we can give our kids is not telling them ‘don’t fight’. It’s teaching them how to deal with those moments.”

28:03 : When To Get Help and Advice

“Anytime you feel out of your league, ask someone for help.”

Credits:

Host: Jodi Freid

Guest: Dr. Aviva Goldstein

Editors: Maximus Quirino & Isabel Leyva

Connect With Dr. Aviva:

AvivaGoldstein.com

FB @DrAvivaG

IG @DrAvivaGoldstein

DrAvivaGoldstein@gmail.com