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Episode 9 | Settling the Confusion between the Fearful Avoidant and the Dismissive Avoidant

Episode 9 | Settling the Confusion between the Fearful Avoidant and the Dismissive Avoidant

Update: 2024-07-16
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Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Dating Decoder with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting

Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.

Episode 9 (announced as Episode 8 in audio): "Settling the Confusion between the Fearful Avoidant and the Dismissive Avoidant." In this enlightening episode Dr. Hensley delves deep into the often misunderstood world of attachment styles, focusing specifically on the Fearful Avoidant (FA) and the Dismissive Avoidant (DA). While their names suggest similarity, Dr. Hensley reveals the significant differences in the behaviors and motivations underlying these two styles. Dr. Hensley meticulously describes how the Fearful Avoidant (FA) exhibits both anxious and avoidant behaviors due to a complex mix of fear and anxiety, often oscillating between seeking closeness and sometimes pushing away when they feel betrayed. This oscillation can be heavily influenced by various factors, including the attachment style of their partner. In contrast, the Dismissive Avoidant (DA) maintains distance primarily as a means of preserving independence and autonomy, showing little interest in emotional closeness.

Through vivid examples and detailed explanations, Dr. Hensley highlights the typical dynamics seen in FA/DA partnerships. These relationships are often marked by one partner's pursuit of intimacy and connection, which can manifest as anxious behaviors or even aggression, while the other partner retreats further into avoidance. This push-pull dynamic creates a cycle of misunderstanding and frustration, leaving partners feeling perpetually out of sync. Drawing from her extensive experience in relationship coaching, Dr. Hensley shares how she navigates these complex dynamics in her hybrid group coaching program. She provides actionable tools and strategies to help couples achieve a balance that honors both the DA's need for autonomy and the FA's desire for intimacy. Through structured guidance and support, she helps partners break the vicious cycle and cultivate a harmonious and fulfilling relationship. Join Dr. Hensley in this episode as she unpacks the intricacies of these attachment styles and offers practical solutions for creating lasting change and deeper connection in romantic partnerships.

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What is covered:

·        The behaviors of the Fearful Avoidant.

·       The behaviors of the Dismissive Avoidant.

·       The subconcious wounds that each attachment style expereinces and why.

·       The Fearful Avoidant/ Dismissive Avoidant romatic relationship dynamic and why it is one of the most complex. 

·       Ways in which the FA/DA romatic relationship dynamic can make it work. 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

·       Are you more Fearful Avoidant or Dismissive Avoidant? 

·       How have your childhood expereinces and relationship to your caregivers influenced your attachment style?

·       Based on which attachment style that you relate to the most, are there ways in which you are willing to change to help with the outcome of your romatic relationship?

·       How committed are you to make the changes necessary to heal your attachment style? 

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Episode 9 | Settling the Confusion between the Fearful Avoidant and the Dismissive Avoidant

Episode 9 | Settling the Confusion between the Fearful Avoidant and the Dismissive Avoidant

Dr. Sarah Hensley