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Fatherhood and Sex Questioning the Status Quo with Dan Doty

Fatherhood and Sex Questioning the Status Quo with Dan Doty

Update: 2025-11-11
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Why do dads seem to shut down after kids,  or push for sex that doesn't feel connected?

Dan Doty has spent 20 years working with men and boys in deeply intimate spaces. In this episode, he shares why sex often feels like survival for dads, and why so many men feel emotionally orphaned after becoming parents.

If your partner seems checked out or constantly initiating (and you're stuck in resentment, shutdown, or confusion)... this episode is a must.

We unpack the unspoken emotional world of fatherhood, fragility, and the deeply misunderstood role sex plays for men after kids.

In this episode:

  • The male version of "matrescence" (yes, it's real)
  • How dads grieve lost intimacy,  and why they can't say it
  • What not to do when you're feeling sexually rejected
  • How to talk about sex without spiralling into blame

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