Historically, thediscourse of absence is carried on bythe Woman :

Woman is sedentary,Man hunts, journeys;

Woman is faithful (she waits ), man is fickle(he sails away, he cruises) .

It is Woman who gives shape to absence, elaborates its fiction, for she has time to do so; 

she weaves and she sings; the Spinning Songs express both immobility (by thehum of theWheel ) and absence (far away, rhythms oftravel, sea surges,cavalcades ). 

It follows that in any man who utters the other's absence something feminineis declared: 

thisman who waits and who suffers fromhis waiting is miraculously feminized. 

A man is not feminized because he is inverted butbecause he is in love.