Diane Forster is an Intentional Living Expert and author of "I Have Today". Diane talks about her attempted suicide, how she changed her life and is now helping others. Hear what helped turn her life around.     Contact Diane Forster website Transcript

Dr. Bob: I'm here with my guest, Diane Forster, and I'm really excited about having this conversation with Diane. She's an incredibly dynamic woman. I was only recently introduced to Diane through a mutual friend, and this friend somehow knew that Diane and I were kind of kindred spirits and would hit it off and have a lot in common, and I'm excited about where this friendship is going, and I just immediately felt that Diane would be somebody who our listeners would really like to hear from. She has a very interesting story. She's made quite a dramatic shift in her life that was inspired by things that she'll be willing and happy to share with you.

Diane, she calls herself an intentional living expert, and she's a coach, mentor, and facilitates masterminds. She is very well educated and trained in NLP and human interaction technology. She works with clients privately in their professional and personal goals, has really helped transform many lives, and it really comes from having hard her own transformation in her life.

She's an author, a best-selling author of a book called I Have Today, Find Your Passion, Purpose and Smile Finally, and is the founder of I Have Today, which really focuses on helping women living more empowered, fulfilling lives.

Interestingly, Diane's also an inventor, and I will let her share more about how that has happened and what being an inventor has brought to her life and means to her.

So Diane, thank you so much for being here. I'm really looking forward to this conversation.

Diane Forster: Thank you so much, Bob. Thank you for having me. I'm honored to be here, and I feel the same way, kindred spirits immediately.

Dr. Bob: So, we're talking about life and death. As you know, my focus is on ... I mean, I think we have a lot of alignment. My focus is on helping people live a more peaceful and meaningful life in the face of challenges. I didn't necessarily come to this calling, or I didn't find it, it didn't find me for a while, but once it did, it's been driving me, inspiring me, pretty much every moment of my life, and it's about having a meaningful life, and it's about having a peaceful and self-determined end of life.

So, you ... In our initial meeting, you really kind of blew me away with where you came from and what you were experiencing and where you are now. So, would you be willing to share a little bit about that?

Diane Forster: Of course. I'm happy to.

You know when I was in my late 20's, I got married, and I married a man that, we weren't really in love with each other, but we loved each other, and it just seemed like the timing to ... It was the time of life to do that, and I grew up with a mom and a dad who really, didn't really love each other ... Weren't in love with each other, but did love each other. Let me say that better.

And so I never really witnessed any real romantic, intimate connection between the two of them, so I grew up thinking that's what marriage looked like. 

So, of course, I attracted a man into my life who was similar, and while we had a deep love for each other in some ways, we didn't have that connection, and I struggled in that marriage for many, many years, trying to make it work. And what was happening to me is I just didn't want to walk away. I didn't want to be a failure. I didn't want to give up on it. I thought I could make it work, and it just was not working, and my soul and spirit were chipping away, day after day, month after month, year after year until many years into it, almost 20 years into it, I just couldn't take it anymore, and one night, in June of 2011, I attempted to take my life. I just thought I can't feel this pain and loneliness anymore.

And so what happened to me in the bathroom that night, was I had two full bottles of pills in my hand, and I was ready to end it all, and they got knocked out of my hand, and the voice that I heard told me, "You are not ending your life this way, Diane. You need to go get help. You need to tell your story because you need to help others." And being a very intuitive person, I just threw my hands up and said, "Well, you need to show me the way."

And so, that was a pivotal moment in my life, and that lowest, lowest point for me was the thing that needed to happen for me to catapult me out of that state and out of that place in my life and really reach out for help.

And so I did the next day and reached out to a therapist, and I said, "I need your help. I need to change my life." And so it took about six more months to get out of that relationship, but when I did, after a brief grief period, I went into a deep introspection and personal development and spiritual awakening and ownership of my part of that relationship not working and where I was in my life at that moment, the condition of my life, and I decided in that moment, I want an extraordinary life. I don't want to live this way, and so I really delved deep into everything that I could get my hands on to read and to watch and to attend and listen to, and what was happening to me, Bob, was I really starting to heal in a very profound way and live in a very different way than I had been living before. I was alive. I was awake. My spirit was nurtured and felt loved and what it was that I came to was I had no self love. I had such low self-esteem and low self love for myself, and I developed it in this process.

  I started writing a lot. Getting all these downloads, and so I would get this hits of inspiration in the middle of the night, and I would write poetry stories, and one night, in August of 2013, I woke up with a poem I Have Today in my head, and so I got up. I wrote it down right away, and it was I have today to love and be loved. I have today to start fresh anew, and it went on and on and on, and when I finished the poem, I looked at it, and I said, "This is way more than a poem. This is a movement. This is what God was talking to me about that night in the bathroom in June of 2011." 

And that's the moment that the idea of I Have Today was birthed where I really wanted to help and support mostly women because I knew so many women were feeling the same way I was, and I see this every day, so that was really where I started back in June of 2011 and where I am fast-forward to today.  I'm now living a life that I've completely manifested, and I've completely reinvented myself, and am living the life of my dreams really intentional and purposeful every single day, and now I help others to do the same thing.

Dr. Bob: Wow. I don't know that there's really another word that would actually be appropriate right now, but wow.

I mean, you shared this with me the first time we met, and I remember having this feeling, the same feeling, but I'd forgotten part of that story, and it just kind of came back to me powerfully.

So number one. Good for you. Phenomenal how beautiful that you went from this place of despair where you were really on the brink of death to where you are now, and not just having sort of reinvented yourself and found your own bliss, but taking that experience and taking that incredible pain that you were going through and using that to fuel the career that has now, I'm sure, been able to inspire and support many, many other people in finding their path out of that.

Diane Forster: Yes.

Dr. Bob: And not just taking people who are in despair and considering suicide, but taking people who are living an average life or what they feel is a mediocre life and being able to decide that they're going to have an extraordinary life too.

Diane Forster: You said the magic word. It's a decision, and it is a choice, and it takes a lot of help. It takes a lot of support, but yes, it is something that you really have to decide for yourself, how do you want to live every day? How do you want to feel every day? And so along my path with it, I've developed a lot of different processes, a lot of three-step processes that I've made it easy for me to catch myself when I'm not living in the present moment and to help and support me on this journey to keep that positive momentum going every single day, moving it forward, feeling alive, feeling fulfilled, feeling the expansion and the growth and all of that.

For me, I could've never imaged that my life would've taken the turn that it's taken, but I feel such fulfillment and joy every day helping and serving others to help them create the life of their dreams.

Dr. Bob: Yeah. Well, so we were so aligned there, and what's interesting as well is that our journeys have been