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From Blowups to Glow Ups: The Secret of Pre-Negotiated Timeouts

From Blowups to Glow Ups: The Secret of Pre-Negotiated Timeouts

Update: 2025-09-11
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Ever feel like your arguments could use a referee? *Pre-negotiated timeouts have entered the chat.* The girls chat the relationship hack backed by psychology (and yes, Gottman’s legendary Love Lab) that helps couples cool off without checking out.

In this episode of Get Psyched, we explore how a simple “time out” can actually make your love life stronger:

🎙️The do’s and don’ts of setting a pre-negotiated timeout (hint: no storming off allowed)

🎙️Why your timeout space/activity should be Switzerland-level neutral

🎙️Owning your part in the conflict dance (yes, we all have one 🕺💃)

🎙️How hitting pause gives your nervous system a much-needed reset

🎙️The promise to circle back and finish the convo like adults

🎙️Shifting your perspective: partner = teammate, not opponent

🎙️Seeing the goodness in each other—even when you’re annoyed

Think of this as your crash course in fighting fair without losing the spark. Because great relationships aren’t about never fighting—they’re about knowing how to press pause, regulate, and reconnect.

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From Blowups to Glow Ups: The Secret of Pre-Negotiated Timeouts

From Blowups to Glow Ups: The Secret of Pre-Negotiated Timeouts

Lindsey Locke & Amy Shenk