Episode Overview

This week we’re joined by Monica Maldonado - the voice behind @thepowerofgoodenough - for a raw, hopeful conversation about how low self-worth can quietly shape our lives even when we’ve had a “stable” upbringing. Monica shares how being the youngest of four, people-pleasing, and staying “small” became an identity she had to unlearn in adulthood. We talk about awakening moments, inner-child work, nervous-system safety, micro-actions, and the difference between healing and transformation. If you’ve ever felt “average,” invisible, or only worthy when you perform — this one’s for you.

Key Discussion Points

• “Stable” childhoods & invisible wounds: Why invalidation and family roles (youngest/eldest, capable/quiet) can wire worth externally.
• Not-enoughness as identity: How staying small becomes comfortable - and why leaving it feels terrifying (and courageous).
• Awakening → healing → transformation: The stages Monica noticed, and why many of us get stuck healing but never acting.
• Inner-child work that actually helps: Re-parenting with compassion, giving yourself the words you never heard.
• Boundaries as self-respect (not punishment): Standards you set for you, not rules to control others.
• Generation-breaking: Modeling unconditional worth for our kids while we’re still rewriting our own scripts.
• Why Monica’s message resonates now: Women naming burnout, rejecting perfection, and refusing to shrink anymore.
  
  
  

Listener Takeaways

• Your worth is inherent. Move from “I’m worthy only when…” to “I’m worthy even when…”.
• Name the pattern. Ask: Where am I still performing small to stay safe/liked?
• Regulate, then act. A regulated body makes brave conversations possible.
• Practice micro-courage daily. One tiny ask, no apology attached. Repeat.
• Boundarie

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