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Episode 12 Season 2

Another amazing guest joins the boy's and what a story he has to tell.

Life in the Armed forces
Suicide
Complex Greif
Adjustment Disorder
Complex PTSD


Trevor Bygate, 48,  joins Martin and Patrick for an informal chat about his time in the Armed Forces and how he received the devastating news that his Daughter Chloe had taken her own life in 2014 when she was just 19.

It led to him being medically discharged with complex post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and he has used the experience to educate others of mental health.

Trevor initially took several months off work, but it was not until 2019 that he was diagnosed with complex PTSD and medically discharged from the Army.

He is keen to express his gratitude to the Royal British Legion, which helped him in his recovery after he left the armed forces.

The charity, which provides financial, social and emotional support for those who are and have been in the armed forces, helped fund Chloe's funeral. He described its support as "first class".

Trevor tells us how he received the devastating news whilst away on duty, how the Army supported him through this trauma, what happened to his mental health and how he made it through to today.

Trevor now works as a mental health advocate for HM Revenue and Customs while also helping to give presentations on behalf of Papyrus (Parents' Association for the Prevention of Young Suicide)  - a charity dedicated to the prevention of suicide of young people.

He is keen to break the stigma around mental health and show it is OK to talk about struggles, while educating others on the topic.

"I always say to myself, Chloe didn't die for nothing, she died for something and that's me making sure that this story gets out."

One of Trevors outlets during his grieving process was running, sport and completing 6 Marathons raising thousands for charity. This has driven him on to where he finds himself today and finds himself selected for 2025's Invictus games in Canada.

"This year is 10 years since the Invictus Games started, it's 10 years since Chloe died, and I got the phone call to tell me that I was selected on 7 June - which is her 30th birthday.

Trevor believes Chloe was looking down on him the day he found out he had been selected for the games.

This is a truly amazing story from such an inspirational man.

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