I used to push, judge, and scare myself into change. I figured if I just criticized myself enough I would become a better person, and if I spent my time comparing myself to others I'd somehow magically transform. When I realized all I was doing was making myself miserable and getting in my own way, I changed my tactic. Now I encourage myself with love, excitement, and celebrations. I've learned that gentleness is often more affective than heavy bludgeoning when making mistakes or doing something new. Today we explore the art of the gentle tap and the wisdom of using our irritations to find equanimity.