Grief has a way of making every word feel heavier. That’s why our conversation with international intuitive medium and mentor Deb DeSell focuses on language, consent, and care—so messages from spirit soothe rather than sting. Deb brings a rare blend of evidential skill and therapeutic crisis intervention training, showing how trauma-informed and grief-informed practices can transform a reading from “interesting” to deeply healing.

We dive into the simple shifts that matter most: why “died by suicide” is kinder and more accurate than “committed,” how to convey responsibility in a passing without blame, and what to do when a spirit steps forward that the sitter isn’t ready to hear from. Deb shares clear scripts for opening a session with consent and control, gives alternatives to harmful phrases like “you’re so strong” and “you chose this,” and demonstrates value-neutral framing for sensitive evidence. You’ll hear practical approaches you can use immediately—whether you’re reading professionally, supporting a grieving friend, or navigating your own loss.

We also talk timing after death, managing expectations that can constrict a session, and the power of semantics when words like “mischievous” mean different things to different people. Deb points to essential resources, including the Dougy Center, and invites newer practitioners to build a referral list so clients leave with support beyond the sitting. Along the way, we celebrate Deb’s projects—the Intuitive Entrepreneur book, her upcoming Intuition 101 class, and her new show The Intuitive Edge, where soul meets strategy.

If you care about ethical, heart-led mediumship and real-world support for the bereaved, this one will stay with you. Listen, share with someone who needs better language around loss, and tell us: which phrase will you change first? Subscribe, leave a review, and tag us with your takeaways so more people can find this conversation.

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Deb is an international intuitive medium and mentor known for her trauma-informed, heart centered approach. Deb helps people connect with spirit, trust their intuition, and step into soul- driven success. She leads classes and retreats across the globe and is the host of her upcoming show, The Intuitive Edge, Where Soul Meets Strategy.

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• @DebDecelleMedium on Instagram
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Nicole Pope is an internationally-trained Evidential Medium and Soul Integration Guide dedicated to helping others reconnect with their higher self, awaken their gifts, and remember who they truly are.

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