Growing up "Fat" & "Gay" in Singapore's Conservative Culture
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💪🏾 Strength isn’t only built in the gym. It’s found in every woman who chooses to live fully, truthfully, and unapologetically.
In this insightful episode of The Forties Formula podcast, hosts Jasmin Dhillon and Amanda Lim sit down with CHERYL TAY, body confidence advocate and founder of Rock The Naked Truth. Cheryl opens up about her journey from disordered eating and perfectionism to radical self-acceptance, reminding us that true strength begins when we stop performing for others and start honoring ourselves.
Together, they talk about the pressure to “stay small,” the toll of diet culture, and the ways women are reclaiming visibility in their 40s and beyond. From redefining beauty to setting healthy boundaries, this conversation explores how self-care, mental health, and body confidence are deeply connected. Cheryl also shares her powerful journey of self-acceptance, the challenges of living in a hyper-comparative world, and how vulnerability became her greatest strength.
Together, they explore:
• Why visibility is both powerful and uncomfortable for women raised to stay quiet
• How cultural and family expectations shape confidence and identity
• The emotional toll of perfectionism and the fear of making mistakes
• How vulnerability creates deeper connections and genuine self-trust
• The power of choosing joy, freedom, and authenticity in your 40s and beyond
The path to confidence isn’t found in flawless skin or perfect symmetry but in the courage to be seen as you are. As Cheryl reminds us, real strength comes when we stop performing for the world and start showing up for ourselves.
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CHAPTERS
00:00 – Episode Snippets
03:34 – Building confidence and learning to be seen
05:45 – When criticism says more about others than you
09:38 – How love can exist fully even without societal approval
15:11 – Debunking myths about gay and queer couples
17:42 – The ripple effect of suppressed unhappiness
19:35 – When explaining therapy and trauma doesn’t land
23:14 – Rock the Naked Truth
26:03 – The hidden cost of dieting
30:42 – “Do first, think later”
33:17 – Fuel Your Forties Segment: The power of protein and mindful eating
34:47 – Hot or Hype
37:36 – The Forties Formula: Three keys to thriving
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