Kids might be the best, and worst, thing for a marriage! On the one hand, they’re a “blessing from the Lord” (Ps. 127:3) and Jesus himself said “let the little children come to me” (Mt. 19:14 ). But on the other hand, they’re loud, messy, needy, don’t listen, and can (unintentionally) create barriers between spouses. 

Being aware of both the joys and hardships of parenting as well as the impact your kids may have on your marriage is an important first step to preventing a future breakdown.

In this episode Austin and Shay discuss the ways their kids have helped build up their own marriages. Then they acknowledge the following four ways that kids can break down marriage:

1. Create isolation


2. Create chronic stress


3. Create disconnection


4. Create anger, bitterness, and resentment towards your partner

The great news is that there are several things you can do to build up your marriage in the midst of parenting stress! Austin and Shay recommend the following four practices:

1. Plan regular date nights and getaways


2. Schedule “state of the union” meetings


3. Address “elephants”


4. Express appreciation



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