Have you ever had moments when you wished you spoke up and asserted yourself, but you didn’t? Do you feel difficulty asserting yourself sometimes?

I feel this way too sometimes. In this episode of The Personal Excellence Podcast, learn

• 5 tips to build your courage to be assertive without being aggressive


• Why being assertive doesn’t mean you stop being nice [02:21 ]


• Why being assertive is not the same as being aggressive [03:21 ]


• 2 key differences between being assertiveness and aggressiveness [4:08 ]


• The value of your voice [04:56 ]


• An incident where I got molested and didn’t assert myself, and why I should have [05:54 ]


• 3 questions to ask yourself in determining whether to assert yourself [10:49 ]


• An alternate approach for people who assert too much [11:38 ]


• Why you shouldn’t just “wait” when it comes to high-level career questions like promotion plan and salary rise [12:19 ]


• Dealing with a parent who keeps pushing their views on you [13:45 ]


• The face-saving culture and being sensitive to people’s feelings when asserting [15:39 ]


• What I do when I have disruptive course participants [16:42 ]


• Using I-statements vs. You-statements [18:20 ]


• 3 differences between I-statements and You-statements, and why I-statements are better when it comes to asserting yourself or in conflicts [19:36 ]


• Example of I-statements in a conflict with your partner [22:00 ]


• Focus on the positive in conversations [23:52 ]


• How to talk to your boss if you’re facing heavy workload [24:59 ]


• How to assert to a difficult co-worker [26:09 ]


• The importance of win-win and how to involve others [28:18 ]

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How To Be Assertive, Not Aggressive [Transcript]

Welcome to The Personal Excellence Podcast. The show that’s all about helping you be your best self and live your best life. Now, your host, Celestine Chua!

Celestine Chua: Hey everyone, welcome to The Personal