We are anxious to improve our circumstances but are unwilling to improve ourselves.

—James Allen

Everything worthwhile takes time, discipline, and a willingness to face hard truths. And those truths can be uncomfortable. Here are a few you might find helpful. I’ve run into them and tried to act appropriately. Sometimes I do, and sometimes I get them wrong.

Uncomfortable Truths and Actions

1. No one owes you anything. → Take responsibility. Do the work.

2. Some people are victims. Most people just act like they are. → Stop waiting for life to be fair. You’ll be waiting a long time. Do what you can, today.

3. No one cares about your excuses. → Figure it out.

4. Your feelings aren’t facts. → Pause. Question them. Find your blind spots.

5. Most people want to be right more than they want to get it right. → Stop proving yourself. Look for where you’re wrong.

6. Most people optimize to avoid failure or looking foolish. → Optimize to avoid regret.

7. Motivation is a trap. → Discipline wins. Show up consistently.

8. Doing the work isn’t enough. → The right work, at the right time, in the right way—that’s what wins.

9. Knowing when to push through and when to pivot is hard. → Be honest about what’s working—and what’s not. Admit when you’re wrong.

10. Comfort is addictive. → Seek discomfort. Strength comes from struggle.

11. If you don’t adapt, you get left behind. → Evolve or become irrelevant.

12. Sometimes you’re the problem. → If the same issues keep showing up, look in the mirror.

13. Not everyone will like you. → If you chase approval, you’ll stay average. Be bold and have the courage to be disliked.

14. People who matter don’t care about what you own. → Focus on who you are, not what you have.

15. Most people follow the crowd because it’s easier and safer. → An extraordinary life requires risk and extraordinary choices.

16. No one makes you feel a certain way. → Your emotions and your mind are the only things that are truly yours. Control them, or they will control you.

17. No one is coming to save you. → You either figure it out, or you don’t.

18. We all struggle. → Asking for help isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom. Most things are better together.

19. Most people are self-focused. → Be different.

20. Tolerance is acceptance. → What you allow—people, behaviors, standards—becomes your reality. Choose wisely.

21. Everyone dies. → Stop wasting time on worry and regret. Use every second to create, connect, find joy, or do what actually matters.Be good.

Take care, Kelly

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