Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they break down how emotional state shapes connection, timing, and the way couples show up for each other. They reveal why green, yellow, and red moods matter, how stress pushes partners into the “collision zone,” and why late nights and alcohol make everything harder. This episode is not about blame. It is about awareness, timing, and the simple shifts that protect love when it matters most.

If you want a relationship that lasts, start by mastering the moments that break most couples.

Show notes:
(2:08 ) The green-yellow-red awareness system
(6:29 ) What creates the “collision zone”
(9:29 ) How your nervous system signals danger
(11:57 ) Why alcohol makes hard moments harder
(13:20 ) Simple language to avoid conflict
(19:17 ) Nighttime fights and next-day fallout
(22:02 ) Checking your state as a team
(23:28 ) Outro

Digital Asset:
The Shared Language - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1TKs_PSiMzfZGyNQFKI4OKzsFc48MA9zb/view?usp=drive_link

Referenced Research Articles:
https://www.google.com/url?q=https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5293605/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1764094977531479&usg=AOvVaw08OVyxCcj8z-LOtR2nH6on

https://www.google.com/url?q=https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi%3D10.1037%252Ffam0000227&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1764095121534954&usg=AOvVaw01XE6-0-LiIdNf0W7yGxLQ

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