Picture a football stadium full of 80,000 people.

Research indicates that you will influence that many people during the course of your lifetime. (even if you don't have your own YouTube channel)

But who is in your stadium? And what does it sound like in there? Are people cheering for the ways you positively affected them? Are they booing for all the terrible things you did? Or are they silent because you were on your phone most of the time and ambivalent to those around you?

In this thought-provoking conversation, leadership expert Tommy Spaulding poses these important questions and talks through his own personal story of hitting rock bottom with hidden depression and familial turmoil despite outward worldly success.

He relates the story of how he rediscovered his inherent value as a child of God and his potential for influencing those around him. His wife arranged a 50th birthday celebration that involved giving him 50 handwritten-letters—one each day leading up to his birthday—from family, friends, acquaintances...even the HVAC repairman!

These letters showed Tommy that even small gestures for other people can make them feel loved and have a huge impact. This new perspective has led him to live each encounter with another person as if they will one day be sitting in his 80,000-person stadium, and he offers tips from his new book The Gift of Influence so YOU can change your everyday interactions to lean into that idea, too.

You matter more than you know. You don't need a podcast or thousands of Instagram followers to be an influencer. Your mere existence is a blessing, and your daily interactions—with family, friends, and even strangers—can change their lives forever.

As we approach Christmas and the start of a new year, it's a good time to think about how you're treating the other people in your stadium.

Get Tommy's book, The Gift of Influence: https://www.amazon.com/Gift-Influence-Creating-Life-Changing-Interactions/dp/0593138635/

HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 — You Matter More Than You Think

01:56 — Writing from Pain, Not the Mountaintop

03:16 — Success on the Outside, Rock Bottom on the Inside

07:36 — The Plane Ride Where He Prayed It Would End

09:40 — The Birthday That Saved His Life

14:02 — “She Gave Me the Gift of Influence”

15:25 — Why Social Media Hijacked the Word “Influencer”

17:42 — The 80,000-Person Stadium That Is Your Life

21:56 — “What’s the Sound of Your Stadium?”

38:48 — Mrs. Lynn - An Influencer Story

52:16 — The Caribou Coffee Moment

55:58 — “God Bless You” at Jiu-Jitsu

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Chapters

• (00:00:00 ) - Your Life Decodes
• (00:00:33 ) - Joy to the World
• (00:03:14 ) - When you were 49, you were financially on the edge of life
• (00:10:13 ) - A Mother's Love Letter for Her
• (00:11:17 ) - The Gift of Influencing Lives
• (00:15:43 ) - In the Elevator With Jay-Z
• (00:17:11 ) - The Average Human Being Influences 80,000 People in Their Lifetime
• (00:21:44 ) - Chris Farley on His Book
• (00:24:39 ) - Sum Up: How to Make Friends and Influence People
• (00:26:53 ) - Don't Network, Net-Give
• (00:29:33 ) - 3 Eyes: Influence, Investment, Intent
• (00:34:05 ) - Don't Let Your Story Be About You
• (00:38:10 ) - A Story about Mrs. Lynn Lin
• (00:42:15 ) - The Gift of Influence
• (00:48:44 ) - How to Reach the People
• (00:49:49 ) - A Story of My Child
• (00:53:46 ) - The Story of Tate influencing a teen's love life
• (00:56:59 ) - Chris Melvoin on How Much Does My Life Matter?