What if the tension in your relationships isn’t actually about the other person — but about patterns you learned long before you realized it?

In this powerful and deeply practical conversation, licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Mark Cameron joins us to unpack attachment styles — how they form in childhood, how they quietly drive conflict in adulthood, and how secure attachment can actually be earned later in life.

From marriage and parenting to leadership, faith, and emotional regulation, this episode connects the dots between why we react the way we do and how to break unhelpful cycles for good.

Mark is a co-host of New Life Live, the largest Christian counseling call-in radio show in the country, and the author of Understanding Your Attachment Style. Whether you’re married, single, dating, leading a team, or raising kids, this episode will help you better understand yourself — and the people you love.

✨ In this episode, we discuss:

What attachment styles are and why everyone has one
The 4 insecure attachment styles (Avoider, Pleaser, Vacillator, Disorganized)
What secure attachment actually looks like
Why triggers are usually about the past — not the present
How attachment styles show up in marriage, parenting, work, and leadership
Why “just communicate better” doesn’t work
How faith intersects with attachment and emotional healing
How to earn secure attachment as an adult
What to look for when choosing a spouse (without over-analyzing everything)
This episode is for anyone who wants healthier relationships, deeper connection, and real tools — not just theory.

If this conversation resonates with you, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who’s navigating relationships right now.

⏱️ Timestamps / Chapters
00:00 – Meeting Mark Cameron & why this conversation matters
01:48 – What is attachment theory (and why everyone has an attachment style)
03:36 – The Avoider attachment style explained
05:06 – The Pleaser (anxious) attachment style
06:18 – Why siblings can develop different attachment styles
07:02 – The Vacillator attachment style (push–pull dynamics)
08:28 – Disorganized attachment: controllers & victims
09:43 – Secure attachment & why it’s the goal
11:35 – Can secure and insecure attachment coexist in relationships?
12:29 – Verbalize vs. dramatize: why language for feelings matters
13:32 – Attachment styles at work & in leadership
14:29 – How triggers reveal attachment wounds
16:13 – Reactions vs. responses (and why it matters)
17:38 – How to identify your attachment style
19:44 – Most common attachment pairings in couples therapy
21:13 – Why Mark keeps couples together in therapy
22:39 – Questions that uncover attachment wounds
24:57 – The “comfort circle” communication framework
25:48 – How attachment affects communication under stress
27:39 – Parenting for secure attachment
28:54 – Common issues callers bring to New Life Live
30:32 – Addiction, emotional numbing & attachment
31:59 – Practical rhythms for staying connected in marriage
34:52 – Faith, God & attachment styles
37:08 – Jesus as the ultimate secure connector
38:38 – Choosing a spouse: what really matters long-term

Connect with Marc:
📘 Mark Cameron’s book: Understanding Your Attachment Style
🎧 Radio show: New Life Live
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marc.cameron.mft

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