Ever noticed how much pressure there is for ‘good girls’ to perform compassion and for ‘strong boys’ to avoid it?

[00:00 ] Evie & Chelle share the gender expectations they're shaking off.

[02:00 ] Chelle shares Ah Ha #1: how early socialization creates deeply different relationships with compassion—women often perform it to earn love, while men armor up against it for survival.

[06:20 ] Evie introduces Tool #1: Reaching for Compassion with four steps: listen to learn, understand to know, connect to capabilities, and then act to solve.

[11:15 ] Evie shares Aha #2: Accountability isn't about blaming and punishing someone, but partnering together.

[12:42 ] Chelle introduces Tool #2: Own It with three questions to do our accountability work first: What's mine to own? Have I made my expectations clear? If boundaries were crossed, have I voiced it?

[17:57 ] Chelle shares Aha #3: We can't just do our own work—healthy accountability requires partnership.

[20:36 ] Evie shares Tool #3: Share the Load with four steps: get clear on expectations (for me, for you, for us), check motivation levels, decide how to track progress, and adjust as needed when things go off track.

[23:33 ] Chelle shares a vulnerable story about her son Charlie holding her accountable.

[30:54 ] Chelle summarizes the three ahas and three tools covered in the episode.

[34:22 ] Post-show discussion with Evie and Chelle.

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