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How to Be a Pro at Sex Parties: Etiquette, Consent & Confidence (ft. Beth Sparksfire)

How to Be a Pro at Sex Parties: Etiquette, Consent & Confidence (ft. Beth Sparksfire)

Update: 2025-07-17
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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Beth Sparksfire — the Queen of Hacienda, New York’s legendary sex-positive community and party scene.

Together, we dive deep into how to be a thoughtful, respectful, and unforgettable sex party guest. Whether you’re a first-timer or looking to level up, Beth shares the real dos and don'ts from her years curating erotic experiences.

We cover:

  • What to know before attending your first sex party

  • How to navigate consent, conversation, and energy

  • Why curiosity is sexy, but entitlement isn't

  • What not to do when you're naked in public

  • The importance of aftercare — even at play parties

  • Creating safer, queerer, more intentional spaces

  • How Hacienda became the gold standard for sex-positive events

  • ✨ As always, the unedited version of this episode — plus more about my personal dating life, spicy stories, and access to my Close Friends on IG — is on Patreon!

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    How to Be a Pro at Sex Parties: Etiquette, Consent & Confidence (ft. Beth Sparksfire)

    How to Be a Pro at Sex Parties: Etiquette, Consent & Confidence (ft. Beth Sparksfire)

    Alexa Andre - Sexologist and Relationship Expert