How to be Shamelessly Sexy with Miss Educated Author and Sexuality Advocate

Update: 2025-09-19

Description

Ep 664: Ever wondered how childhood experiences secretly shape your sexual desires and why most women struggle to ask for what they want in bed?

In this eye-opening episode, Ruin Willow sits down with Tash Doherty (Miss Educated), a London-born writer, author, and sexuality advocate now based in Mexico who's on a mission to make the world "shamelessly sexy." Tash breaks down her three-pillar approach to sexual empowerment: discover what you want, believe you deserve it, and ask for it.

The conversation dives deep into how family and cultural shame impact our sexuality, with Tash sharing insights from her upcoming **Sex Journal** launching on Kickstarter. This beautifully designed journal features 20 poems and themed prompts exploring ecstasy, obsession, longing, and desire—all designed to help women reduce shame and align their sex lives with their values.

From discussing how childhood associations create unexpected fetishes to exploring the healing power of erotic writing, Tash traces sexuality's role throughout history—from Sappho to the Song Dynasty. She shares her journey from teen romance novelist to sex blogger, including viral pieces like "Get a Man Who Loves Your Bush."

The duo also tackles the complex role of pornography in sexual education, highlighting ethical alternatives, and emphasizing the importance of self-exploration through masturbation and quality toys.

Ready to explore your own sexual narrative without shame? Tune in for this transformative conversation about reclaiming pleasure and rewriting your story, thereby also improving your relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• A simple three-pillars formula—know what you want, believe you deserve it, ask for it—reframes sexual confidence as a learnable practice.
• Erotic journaling can dismantle familial shame and scaled into a mainstream coffee-table Sex Journal launched on Kickstarter.
• Stigmatized practices (masturbation, toys, "healthier" porn, open communication) are portrayed as deliberate tools to build self-knowledge, pleasure, and agency.

Chapters Timeline:

00:00:02 - Shamelessly Sexy
00:04:23 - Writing a Sex Journal for Women
00:07:23 - Shame and Sexuality
00:12:37 - Exploring Female Sexuality and History
00:16:09 - Exploring Sexuality Through Design
00:18:12 - Achieving Orgasm Equality
00:28:16 - Consent, communication, and sexual exploration
00:30:56 - Orgasm Equality and Sexual Empowerment
00:38:50 - Sex Tech and Favorite Toys
00:39:38 - Sex Toys: Tools Not Replacements
00:43:32 - Sex Toys Changed My Life, sexual health
00:48:09 - Clitoris Shapes, Stimulation, and Orgasm, libido
00:52:17 - Vulva vs Vagina, female anatomy