The definition of resilience for physics from Mirriam-Webster dictionary:

The capability of a strained body to recover its size and shape after deformation caused especially by compressive stress

The first thing would be to believe that you ARE capable of bouncing back after going through something difficult. This belief will give you hope in tough times to know that I can do this, I’ll get through this, this too shall change.

Resilience is like a muscle and is build over time especially through considerable emotional distress.

The Connor Davidson resilience scale lists about 25 good Characteristics or qualities that he listed that people have that are resilient. Those people are able to adapt to change, under pressure they can Focus and think clearly,  they are able to bounce back after hardships, They know where to turn to help when they need it. They can make unpopular or difficult decisions. Follow this link: https://positivepsychology.com/connor-davidson-brief-resilience-scale/

Thomas Edison said:  “I found 10 000 thousand ways not to make a light bulb”

That's quite a significant amount of failures before succeeding and that's cognitive flexibility. Every time you fail or adversity or struggle comes along you rephrase it into something positive. Failure is usually a method of learning and growing. If you're resilient you'll be able to adapt to failures and turn it into a life lesson and grow from it. Have you ever failed but then gathered your thoughts and tried to find another way to make things work, to rephrase it for yourself and learn from that experience? Do that with anything that comes across your life path.  It's way easier to resist and ignore or suppress the failures but go back, be creative and show self-discipline to find another way to make things work.

When things get tough you should ask the necessary question ARE you trying to control outside factors which you have no control over or do you focus on that which is in you your control? Your view of this world and situations and phrases you tell yourself during difficult times. 

Change your mental perspective or change your internal narrative and rephrase it to something positive and you start to break the habit of thinking negatively. Our podcast about breaking habits and routines.

Thomas Edison had the goal of making a device that could emit light from the electricity that was his goal and he was going to get to that no matter what happens. He just kept on learning and adapting until he eventually succeeded.

So it's crucial to set detailed goals... ask yourself who, what, where and when it's important to make it as detailed as possible so that you can achieve it no matter what. Having detailed daily actions will help you to persevere through adversity and failure.

Lucy Hone and wrote down the strategies she mentioned, I believe this would clear up what we can do or how we should behave and be resilient: 

• Resilient people get that shit happens. When the tough times come they seem to know that suffering is part of every human existence and knowing this stops you from feeling discriminated against. 


• Choose carefully where you select your attention. Focus on the things you can change and accept the things you can't. 


• Don't diminish the negative but work out a way of tuning into the good.


• Choose Life, not death. Don't lose what you have.


• Hunt the good stuff. People with higher levels of gratitude higher levels of happiness show less depression over the course of a six-month study than those without.