You know, by the time we reach middle age, life tends to throw us a few curveballs - losing loved ones, dealing with illness, going through divorces, or getting laid off from jobs. It's like a series of tough punches.
But you know what's interesting? Even though we've been through some stuff ourselves, when someone we care about is going through a really tough time, we often struggle to find the right words to show our love and support. We end up feeling awkward or just defaulting to a generic "I'm so sorry."
Veena had been eagerly awaiting the results of her job interview for weeks. When the email finally arrived, her heart raced as she clicked it open. But instead of the congratulatory message she had hoped for, it contained a polite rejection. Disappointment washed over her, and tears welled up in her eyes as she realized she hadn't gotten the job she so desperately wanted.
Her roommate, Emily, noticed Veena's distress and immediately went to her side. She put an arm around Veena's shoulders and offered a comforting hug. "I'm so sorry, Veena," Emily said softly. "I know how much you wanted this. It's okay to feel upset. You're talented, and I'm sure another opportunity will come your way soon."
Veena buried her face in Emily's shoulder, grateful for her friend's support. In that moment, all she needed was someone to be there for her, to offer a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on. With Emily's comforting presence, Veena knew she would be able to pick herself up and keep moving forward, despite the disappointment she was feeling.
Are you always able to help your friends like Emily? Do you know how to console someone in need or do you just freeze, not knowing what to say or do.
This episode trains you in what I call the COMMUNICATION TRIPOD- a master strategy to help console your loved ones, when they need you. When sitting with your loved ones, avoid getting distracted, as much as possible. Be there in body and spirit, and make sure to be yourself.