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I Obsessed Over Getting Men To Commit in Relationships (here’s what I learned)

I Obsessed Over Getting Men To Commit in Relationships (here’s what I learned)

Update: 2025-09-30
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I interviewed 20 eligible single men to find out the real reasons they don’t commit. This episode of the Dear Black Gay Men Podcast unpacks the surprisingly consistent dating horror stories and boils them down to three basic things every man needs to commit to a relationship.

In this video, you’ll learn:

* 🔑 The number one reason men don’t commit: they don’t know what they want, or can’t concretely say why.

* 🗣️ The three simple considerations men make when deciding to take dating to the next level: what I want, what you want, and the minimum requirements to get those things.

* ❓ Why a man is likely “stringing you along” if he’s unclear, oblivious, or neglecting one of the three considerations.

* 💬 How a lack of clear communication about desires can make men “fall back” to single life.

* 💯 Why men only move when they are

required to, and the three aspects of your requirements that must be met for a man to change his behavior.

* 🤔 A deeper discussion on high dating standards in Black gay culture and the true desire for love and solidarity beneath them.

Tune in as Jai the Gentleman shares the insights from these interviews, and we discuss the common commitment killers and how to master the dating process to find a fulfilling relationship.

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I Obsessed Over Getting Men To Commit in Relationships (here’s what I learned)

I Obsessed Over Getting Men To Commit in Relationships (here’s what I learned)

Jai The Gentleman