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I like to, uh, start by welcoming everybody back to the winner song, a podcast, uh, that includes myself. I also would like to apologize for taking such a long hiatus between episodes two and three here. Uh, I was focused on, uh, well, I was focused on a lot of, a lot of things going on in my life. Um, I was focused on some important life changes.

I was honestly kind of distracted by some unhealthy attachments. Uh, so yeah, it's been a little over two years since my last episode. So basically, I kind of said to myself. Oh, well, originally I wanted to release this episode on the anniversary of the, you know, two year anniversary of the last episode.

But that didn't happen. So, um, here I am now. So,

I was recently thinking about the fact that so many people all over the world have listened to this podcast. It's. Truly amazing for me. I, it's awesome to know that I have listeners in 14 different countries now and

yeah, that's mind blower. Shout out to all the listeners out there. Shout out to my home country, the USA with 55% of my listeners and shout out to Germany. They make up like 11% India, uk, Spain, Singapore, Italy, France, Japan, China. Canada, Hong Kong and Argentina are just some of the areas that people are listening, so that's just amazing.

I never, you know, I would've felt blessed if just one person kinda listened to all these ramblings, um, but to have complete strangers from like 14 different countries that have tuned in, and it just makes me feel really grateful and inspired. So thank you. Every single one of you, it's because of you that I didn't delete this project entirely.

I mean, I've been paying like the transistor thing that I upload this on and everything and just paying into that. 'cause I don't know if people, you know, need those episodes for some reason. Or if they were really, you know, getting something from that and, 'cause some of them got repeat plays and stuff, so I, that was pretty cool.

Like, so I just, you know, if it cost me out of pocket, it kind of didn't matter at that point. And, you know, I, I had a feeling I would kind of come back to this eventually. Uh, I just needed to focus my attention in, in some, in other areas of my life and get myself where I needed to be again, before I could feel like I was, you know, in a, in a bit, any space to actually, uh, help people out or at least share my thoughts without it coming from, you know.

An area or a space that's not genuine. So yeah, shout out to everybody. I also just wanna do a quick shout out to, uh, my friend Dustin. Uh, he works at Rise Barbershop in the Fenix Salon. Uh, he runs the, his, uh, little shop out of that. And, uh, it's, it's in the, uh, Phoenix Salon Suites in Rockland. Uh, you can find 'em in suite number 1 0 2.

Dustin's awesome dude. He's an amazing barber. He's precise, he is, got attention to detail and he provides like each of his customers with like ample time to, you know, that you got like your, your allotted time. So you don't ever, you know, someone comes in, they're not gonna sitting there watching and get your haircut, you're not gonna feel rushed.

Um, and he truly tries to understand what the customer's like desiring, you know, for their look or. And, uh, so I just wanna give him a shout out because he, well, he also personally shared, uh, this podcast with people in his life simply because he enjoyed it. And, um, he's given me genuine feedback about my efforts.

And so if you live in like the Sacramento or Plaster County area, Sierra Foothills, um, I highly recommend him as a barber. Uh, and even if. You know, even if he hadn't gone out of his way to gimme feedback and share this podcast, I would still recommend him simply because his beard trims are like on point, his fades.

Like his, the way he fades the beards in the end, like, yeah. I mean, it's just, I've never not got compliments like after. So, um, he's an artist, say the least. Yeah, plenty of compliments after his visit, after visiting him. Uh, so thank you, Dustin. Uh, all right. Now, I guess let's just dive into the actual subject matter of this.

All right. In this episode, we will be covering right speech and how to implement it into our lives to help us develop healthier relationships. Continuing our progression in the eightfold path and how to implement the teachings in order to develop healthier relationships.

As you probably know, our words are powerful tools. Tools that can either construct bridges of empathic understanding or demolish our relationship if not used carefully.

Think of right speech. Like osha, if you follow the guidelines, you're almost guaranteed to be lesser blamed for a failed relationship.

Of course, that's a joke, but,

but really the teachings are, are multifaceted. Multifaceted in that it's not just about what we say, but how we say it, why we're saying it, and when we say the words that we have, hopefully put some thought into.

At its core, it's about utilizing mindfulness within our communication. Before speaking or any form of correspondence, the teachings encourage us to ask ourselves these four simple questions. One, is it true? So are you exaggerating? Are you making assumptions? Is it based in facts? Two. Is it helpful? Does it s serve a purpose?

If it doesn't serve a purpose, then we're just making noise. Three, is it kind? Now, this one's kind of tricky because we don't want to sugarcoat our message, but we need to frame our words with care and intention. Sometimes finding the balance between those two things can be a tightrope act, right?

And four, is it the right time? It's the worst when you have an important point to make, or maybe some great advice, but the timing was completely off and it just falls dead because is.

It wasn't the appropriate time or you missed the opportunity. Is it true? Is it helpful? Is it kind? And is it the right time

Again, is it true? Is it helpful? Is it kind and is it the right time? It can be tricky navigating social interactions while also managing the words that we're speaking,

and in that sense, right? Speech isn't necessarily about being polite either, especially if it's at the expense of being honest.

If you're not thrilled about a decision someone has made. Don't just pretend that you are. I mean, granted if, if they're excited about it and you can genuinely see that, don't attack it as well. Maybe instead of pretending that you are as excited as them say something like, you seem super excited about this and that confidence looks great on you.

If it's in a professional setting, then you obviously need to be more clear about your expectations. But there's also a way to make somebody feel seen...