Building Authenticity—How To Develop Self-Trust & Attract People With It




Summary/Abstract




Authenticity is an important part of being attractive. Duke delate, a dating coach, is discussing this concept in the context of the How to Be More Attractive series. Authenticity is about congruence, or having one's thoughts, words and actions align. It is not necessarily about truth or honesty. Some people are wired to be more open and transparent, while others take more into consideration when it comes to their own self-concept and how they are perceived. Authenticity is about being consistent, without any holes in how one comes across in their body language, micro-expressions, words, and energy level.




This conversation talks about the importance of being authentic with yourself and others. It is essential to be congruent with yourself and to be driven to do something for the right reasons. Being authentic can help to create trust and build relationships. This is especially true for those who are in public roles such as YouTube channels. In this case, the speaker wanted to impact as many people as possible and to share the knowledge that has helped them in their own life. The speaker also wanted to create a buzz around the information that is freely available, and to reach a particular audience that can't be reached by others.




The speaker is discussing how authenticity is important in order to leave a lasting impact and to be attractive to other people. They explain that in order to become more authentic one must first know themselves well. They then talk about their own motivations, noting that they want to become famous and make an impact, and that they don't always care as much about some of the other things that could make their channel blow up faster. They conclude by noting that it is important to be authentic with both oneself and others, and that this will be much more attractive than being transparent.




The conversation focuses on the idea of wearing a wolf in sheep's clothing when trying to make a good impression. The idea is that some people will take the mannerisms of celebrities or models they admire and attempt to emulate them in order to be seen as more charismatic. This idea can work, but it is not authentic and can lead to interactions that lack depth. Coaches advise to use the example as inspiration, but to create one's own stories and lines so that they have something to draw from in longer conversations. This helps ensure that the interaction has genuine depth and isn't just an act.




Timestamps




0:00:00
Building Authenticity: How to Be More Attractive


0:02:38
"The Benefits of Being Authentic: How to Create Trust and Connect with Others"


0:04:31
Authenticity in Your Goals: How to Achieve Real Impact and Attract Respect


0:09:18
Exploring Authentic Interactions: The Dangers of Imitating Others


0:10:28
Exploring the Benefits of Self-Awareness and Authenticity in Relationships


0:16:56
Exploring the Benefits of Knowing and Honoring Yourself in Interactions


0:18:42
"Authenticity: How to Know Yourself, Honor Who You Are, and Take Risks"