good morning, good afternoon, good evening, wherever you are. You're listening to the coffee table. This is e Ruth, and this episode we're talking about the intimidation. What. Took place after we found out our father died.

And how there was a immediate response to that from , our stepfamily and how that's affected us, how it's affected me. So of course, as we go through the process of finding out what was going on, asking all these questions, having all these red flags go up about , the suspicion around our father's death, what the police had told us in terms of what.

Our stepmother and our stepsister said, who had my dad's phone who had access to viewing all his messages, all his inbound calls, which we learned was my stepmother at that police visit. And it's so funny because at the time it didn't even matter to me that they were gonna know that I was the one who asked those questions because they went back to the phone.

I can see. In the WhatsApp page, if you have WhatsApp, you can go to anybody's message and you can see the last time that someone looked at the message. In fact, I just looked at my phone and on June the sixth at 6:00 AM in the morning, someone had definitely went back to listen, look at my dad's messages.

Now, what I realized in retrospect is that anytime that happens, that means that there's a conversation going on, and I'll talk about why I'm saying that. A little bit later. So I hear about our father dying. And the first thing I wanna do is I want people to hear his voice.

Not just bad boys, not just sweat, but the other music that he had, like from his album, hot Cup of Coffee. There's just a lot of great music that our dad made that a lot of people in the US I think didn't get a chance to really experience. As a reggae legend, a part of his legacy to us at least, is that his voice continues to be shared and experienced.

So what happened was I had an Instagram page that was called the Looking Glass it, basically talked a lot about Just social justice stuff. The topics mostly was about like white supremacy, just his on a historical level and presently, and how it still affects us at all levels.

Nobody's being singled out. It's really, it was really about the character of that ideology. Now it's funny that now that I'm talking about the situation with my family, it puts, it brings everything together in terms of just the human character that I spent a lot of time talking about.

And you'll see some of those posts that if you check out the looking glass page that I still got to keep on Facebook. But due to this type of intimidation that was happening with me just simply sharing. I just went, I created three videos three of those videos. At the end of the video. It had a picture of my dad, him performing with his microphone.

It was just two pictures that I posted first of my dad his birthdate and his death date. Above that it said Grammy Award winner singer songwriter of the song, bad Boys Sweat. Has died and it has his birth date and has death date.

And then on one reel it had the Bad Boy song playing in the background. And on the second reel it had the sweat song because I knew that was the most popular songs that he had in rotation that people would immediately like, oh, I didn't know that man's name was Carlton Coffee. But I do know the song.

So the goal was for me to make sure people knew that he had died So people could honor him. And that we were honoring him, whether I was told or not. Whether we were told or not, we were going, we were gonna do this. And if you follow David on Instagram or on Facebook, he's constantly, always, and even when we were little, he was always the one that was like, that's my dad.

Nice. Okay, let me go sit down over here. Like I never, I was just good with being in the background quiet. So it would have not been, it would not have been a strange thing to see David posting anything about my dad. Or sharing things about our dad as it, it shouldn't have been that strange for people to see that for me, actually people probably, it probably was more strange for me because I didn't really share that was our dad ever.

It, I don't know what circumstances it took for me to say that, but it usually would come out like why am I hiding this? Okay, yeah. This is my dad. Maybe you'll find out one day. And so maybe as of recently before he died, I started sharing that a little bit more. But it's not something that I've done regularly Anyway, I go, I create these posts because I know I have the page.

I know people are looking, following things like that, and I'm like, let me share this with folks that are following me so that they know too, that this is his voice, this is his legacy. I post to those videos. David shares them as well, and then all of a sudden I go to log into my Instagram page and I see.

Copyright infringement by my f our father's estate. Then it had, it names the estate specifically his full name, the estate. So I'm like how and keep in mind I admittedly, I did pull the records from the, I did record the song from YouTube and then I post it in the background of the video.

Then after I remember I did that, Instagram sent me a message saying, oh this song has now been added into the Carlton coffee. Like songs for reels. There's a catalog that each artist has in Instagram or Facebook I don't know where else. YouTube I think too. So I'm like, wow, this is really cool.

Like we got some of his songs in Instagram. I was really excited. I was like, this is great. It's gonna get in rotation hopefully with people hashtagging it, things like that. And all of a sudden I get that copyright infringement thing. So I deny it. Cause I'm like, this is my dad. I'm not copyright infringing anything.

Like I, I was, there for when a lot of these songs, when they were being recorded, I don't see a problem with it. We all were there. And so I go and I see that and I deny, I dispute it, and then lo and behold, Instagram comes back and they're like, no. And they ended up taking the whole page away.

Maybe a day or two or later or so, I go back and I create a new page. Is titled the official official the looking glass. Then I start posting this time, but instead of me posting my dad's images, I just post with music, hit some kind of just animated video, type of short video, and then I.

At the end, I put in his name and his birthdate and his death date. So that page stays there for some time. And then after that I realized that I see that someone, my uncle had posted a YouTube video then I notice that there is a woman, a DJ in Columbia that is playing, doing a tribute to him on April 22nd. But by the time it's, it goes in the circulation, it's a little bit later than that. Actually, it's before we even go to the police. So the news started to spread slowly that had passed away.

And I'm watching this woman and she's, and she's emotional. She's talking about how dad will call her, which it goes to his character, right? The narrative. When we get to the narrative episode, if you've not already gotten a chance to look at the. Justice for Carlton Facebook page. In the narrative, the stepfamily is talking about that our father only reached out to the people that he loved, that he wanted closest to him.

And so as I'm looking back at this woman who's a disc jockey, she is talking about the conversations that she had with dad. She's talking about how they talked last year, how he always used to uplift her. He gave her this African. This continent at Africa medallion years ago. So she had a, he had a relationship.

He was very good at networking with people and keeping his relationships together. And so I'm just, I wanna share this, I want everybody to know Hey, this is ladies already doing a tribute. This is so nice. And I talk about us trying to get together to have some kind of memorial for him. I put it in a, this WhatsApp, we have this separate WhatsApp group.

Which is for his spiritual community, our spiritual community. And I say, Hey, I'm gonna give you all update on when we're gonna have the memorial. And I left it at that, I don't know, 10 minutes later, 15 minutes. I don't even have, no, it was very fast. I go back to my Instagram page to go look at, to see exactly how the video is going, rotation for the new videos that I had to redo without his image on them.

And they're using the real music from the music, from the reel, the Instagram reels. And I see I can't log into my account again, and I'm like, what is this? Why can I log it? And I see again copyright infringement. Then I go to my Facebook page. The looking glass. And I also see, again, copyright infringement.

The, I didn't even get a chance. I was just trying to fi figure out like why was this coming up on Instagram? So I had missed the opportunity to go in and see why they were saying that or dig a little bit further and Instagram just wiped that account again. I go back to Facebook. So I just basically agreed to, yeah, I'm copyright, I'm doing copyright infringement.

I agreed to that's what I'm doing. I will not do it again. And that's how I was able to keep my Facebook the Looking Glass page. And I got really upset. I'm like angry as I don't know what, because none of these siblings who said that they loved our father, who he loved us. So in order for you to love him, you have to have you.

You should be able to love us too. None of these siblings, step siblings. Have reached out to us, even to this point. There was an attempt, but that attempt I took is gonna be very aggressive and I just ref just avoided having that kind of confrontation because I was so upset. And so far when I did talk to only one step sibling, the one that told me that dad had died.

She never once said, I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sorry for your,