The conversation around men feeling lonely has become a lightning rod for social, political and cultural weigh-ins by everyone - but how do guys actually feel about their loneliness? We asked you to cut through the noise to give your honest experiences of loneliness and male friendship, and we investigate the research to find out if this can even be called an ‘epidemic’. 

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The State Of Loneliness 2023 data

https://www.campaigntoendloneliness.org/press-release/half-a-million-more-people-are-lonely-all-or-most-of-the-time/

Social Isolation And Loneliness in Australia

https://www.aihw.gov.au/mental-health/topic-areas/health-wellbeing/social-isolation-and-loneliness

‘An uphill battle’: why are men struggling to make – and keep – friends?

https://www.theguardian.com/wellness/ng-interactive/2025/jul/10/male-friendships-midlife#:~:text=According%20to%20data%20from%20the%20Survey%20Center,in%202021%2C%20compared%20with%203%25%20in%201990.

Male loneliness and isolation: What the data shows

https://aibm.org/research/male-loneliness-and-isolation-what-the-data-shows/

The surprising truth about loneliness in America

https://www.vox.com/even-better/366620/loneliness-epidemic-coping-demographics-america-social-connection-mental-health

Side talk: Half of men feel more comfortable having difficult conversations shoulder-to-shoulder

https://www.greeneking.co.uk/newsroom/shoulder-to-shoulder?utm_source=chatgpt.com

Is Male Loneliness an Epidemic? A Gendered and Structural Reframing

https://static1.squarespace.com/static/67e9bb2b8ad1d04967a0459c/t/68abcf2e684fb76f348bc0c0/1756090158503/Is+male+loneliness+an+epidemic.pdf

The men's loneliness epidemic might not exist

https://www.npr.org/2025/02/17/1263527043/its-been-a-minute-male-loneliness-epidemic-real

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Females were more likely to have mental health conditions

https://www.americashealthrankings.org/learn/reports/mental-and-behavioral-health-data-brief/key-findings-gender?utm_source=chatgpt.com

Theorizing Mankeeping: The Male Friendship Recession and Women’s Associated Labor as a Structural Component of Gender Inequality

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/385006823_Theorizing_Mankeeping_The_Male_Friendship_Recession_and_Women's_Associated_Labor_as_a_Structural_Component_of_Gender_Inequality

Men value romantic relationships more and suffer greater consequences from breakups than women

https://www.psypost.org/men-value-romantic-relationships-more-and-suffer-greater-consequences-from-breakups-than-women/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

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