We often have such an activated nervous system in relationships where we don’t feel safe.  We interpret that activated nervous system from abusive or neglectful relationships as excitement.  Your draw to that person is a draw to excitement because excitement makes you feel alive.  

In this episdoe of Pandora's Box, Kaleah talks about the dynamics behind our draw to the narcissist, sociopath or abuser in our lives, trauma bonds, the Stockholm Syndrome, and how we can truly heal and move forward into a healthy relationship with ourselves.