With great attraction comes great sex, forever, right? Not so much. 

Jessica Maxwell studies relationships and sex for a living. With Canadian roots, she's now an assistant professor at the University of Auckland. I learned things from her that I started applying to my own life as soon as the conversation ended.

Topics of discussion

• Sexual fixed mindset vs. growth mindset


• What factors play into long-term relationship satisfaction? 


• How often are people having sex?


• Who else is thinking about how often people are having sex?


• A neat quiz to tell your partner what you want in bed (or out of it)


• The Orgasm Gap 


• What's the best way to meet someone we're compatible with? 


• How scientific are dating apps? 


• Double standards & myths 

Fun Stuff

Sex preferences quiz | Mojo Upgrade 

Learn More 

• Jessica's website

List of researchers Jessica mentioned along with media coverage of their work: 

• Terri Fisher | LA Times | Who lies more about sex, men or women? 


• Sam Joel | The Cut | It's All Too Easy to Ignore Relationship Dealbreakers


• Amy Muise | Science Daily | Couples who have sex weekly are happiest 


• Lindsey Hick | Global News | Are you lying to yourself about how much sex you need in your relationship?