Jefferson Fisher: Stop Spiraling: Use This 3-Step Script for Every Tough Talk
Update: 2025-07-24
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Jefferson Fisher, a Texas trial lawyer, viral communication coach, and author of The Next Conversation, joins Self-Conscious to break down how to have hard conversations without spiraling. Whether it’s with your partner, your parent, or your boss, Jefferson offers a step-by-step framework to help you speak clearly, stay grounded, and protect your relationships in the process.
Chrissy brings her own real-world struggles with confrontation into the mix, making this episode feel like a vulnerable, high-impact workshop in real time.
Key Takeaways:
- Use a three-step formula—state the topic, define the goal, and ask for buy-in—to structure any difficult conversation.
- Avoid triggering phrases like “we need to talk” and instead open with direct, neutral language.
- Practice Jefferson’s “conversational breath” to reset your nervous system before you respond.
- Lowering your voice in tense moments invites the other person to meet you in calm, not conflict.
- When things escalate, pause and ask intentional questions like “Can you say that again?” to shift the power dynamic.
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