In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with drag performer, community builder, and cultural force Jessica L’Whor, also known as Miss Jessica, to explore drag as identity, resistance, and care.

Jessica reflects on growing up in a deeply sheltered Catholic household, navigating queerness through religious guilt, and the long journey toward self acceptance. She speaks openly about coming out later in life, unlearning shame, and what it took to finally embrace who she is today.

From her beginnings in the Denver drag scene to becoming a full time performer for over a decade, Jessica shares the realities of sustaining a creative career without television backing, the business discipline behind longevity, and why consistency matters more than viral moments.

The conversation also dives into the creation of Miss Jessica, her all ages and family friendly drag persona. Jessica explains why visibility for queer youth is vital, how drag story times and school visits became part of her mission, and what it means to create safe, affirming spaces for children and families in a climate where drag is increasingly politicised.

Ben and Jessica discuss chosen family, queer elders, touring across the United States, and the responsibility that comes with having a large platform. Jessica is candid about balancing joy and escapism with activism, and why being a soft, visible presence can be just as powerful as outrage.

This is a conversation about drag as art, drag as care, and the importance of being the person you needed when you were younger.

Chapters

00:00 Queer Panic Rapid Fire Questions

06:36 Childhood and Early Influences

11:42 Understanding Queerness and Family Dynamics

16:25 The State of Drag and LGBTQ+ Community

20:49 Jessica's Journey into Drag

21:31 Longevity in Drag Performance and Community Support

23:19 Empowering the Next Generation of Drag Artists

25:55 Creating Family-Friendly Drag Experiences

28:24 The Role of Visibility and Representation

30:55 Building an Authentic Online Presence

34:10 The Intersection of Art and Activism

37:21 Advice for the Younger Generation

Connect with Jessica L’Whor:

Website - https://www.jessicalwhor.com

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jessicalwhor/

TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@jessicalwhor

Connect with Ben Cicchetti:

Website - https://www.queertalker.com 

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti

TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti