How can we celebrate neurodiversity, rather than just viewing it as a disability? In this episode of the All Aboard ADHD podcast, Claire is joined by Kirsti Nicole Hadley - Brand Consultant, Neurodiversity Advocate and mum to a child with ADHD. Kirsti has worked with hundreds of household names, and as well as a cross-party parliamentary advisor. She is credited with playing an integral role in reframing the narrative around neurodivergence, and recently contributed to BBC Radio 4 Woman's Hour live studio debate about the SEND system: Is the SEND system working for children with special educational needs and disabilities?

After a lifetime of feeling misunderstood, Kirsti finally received a life-changing diagnosis of ADHD with autistic traits and dyscalculia, following her son's diagnoses of ADHD, autism, and OCD in 2021. 

In this episode, she describes some of the early signs of ADHD and autism in her son, as well as the parallels with her own undiagnosed traits - describing the common experience of "familial blindness" (in the absence of a diagnosis, parents believe their children are just similar them in terms of personality). Kirsti shares how it was these resemblances with her son’s traits that delayed the initial identification of her son's conditions. 

She and her son have been on a journey ever since - both learning and unlearning - including the tough challenge of navigating 1.5 years of emotional-based school avoidance in an education system that wasn't built for neurodivergent minds. 

Kirsti shares some insight into how to frame assessment experiences positively for your child along with why being confident and excited for them is key to accepting their own diagnosis. She also provides some helpful strategies for managing school avoidance, so listen closely if you experience school refusal with your own child!

Claire and Kirsti discuss the importance of self-care as parents of neurodivergent kids and the massive impact finding a community of like-minded parents can have for those who are also on this journey. Kirsti offers many messages of hope and positivity in this episode, including the power we can tap into when we acknowledge and celebrate neurodiversity, rather than just viewing it as a disability. 

To find out more about Kirsti and her work, head to:

https://www.sendreformengland.com/

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