What does it mean to give something freely, without expecting anything in return? 

In this talk, Marcia Lieberman introduces us to the Japanese word kubari—a term for paying attention to others, as well as a twig used in flower arranging. 

Drawing from both cultural insight and Buddhist teachings, she shares how kubari expresses a kind of mindful generosity that is not transactional, but attuned and spontaneous. Through personal reflections and references to traditional stories, Marcia invites listeners to reconsider the depth behind acts of giving, suggesting that true generosity arises from awareness, not obligation.

Marcia discusses how kubari is rooted in presence and observation. One must first see what is needed in order to respond with kindness. She contrasts this with the Western notion of giving that often involves expectations, agendas, or a sense of scarcity. Key ideas she explores include:

• Kubari as a practice of attention: noticing the world around you and recognizing opportunities to give.
• Giving without attachment: letting go of the need for recognition or reciprocity.
• Everyday generosity: how small, thoughtful acts—like offering an umbrella or a warm meal—can become meaningful expressions of care.
• Cultural nuance: how Japanese values and aesthetics shape the concept of giving differently from Western frameworks.

Her message is a gentle reminder that generosity is not about quantity—it’s about heart, timing, and connection.

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Marcia Lieberman is a long-term Buddhist practitioner who has been affiliated with San Francisco Zen Center since 1989, having resided at all three practice centers. She was Shuso (Head Student) at Green Gulch Farm for the Spring 2017 Practice Period. As an artist, her affinity for beauty and form in ceremony has been a guiding part of her practice. 

Marcia taught in the photography departments at UC Berkeley and California College of the Arts. In her editorial work she was noted for photographing famous and noteworthy women. Having graduate degrees both in Fine Arts and Buddhist studies, Marcia is able to draw from both of these backgrounds in her work. She recently published her third photographic book, Clean Slate—Images from Dogen’s Garden, with commentaries by Dogen scholars.

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